At this time of the year, we tend to make New Year’s resolutions and welcome the year with a plan to slay them.
My daughter asked the family to help her realize her wish to make ice cream mochi in the coming year. Usually, we would have smiled at her indulgently, “Sure, simple!” Holidays give us the luxury of time, and on further probing (“What is the big purpose that your wish fulfils?”) she came up with a surprising answer for a child. True capability.
She was “shocked” when she found out that the boys who had boasted that they were the best bakers in the whole of New York could not hold a kitchen knife. She promised herself that she would build her capacity bit by bit, one achievable goal at a time.
“What is the Big Question behind the Solution?” is a great way to uncover more than meets the eye. I use it in my work to ask, “What’s calling to be healed in this client?” to go beyond the diagnosis and the symptoms a client wants kick to the curb.
My husband uses it in consulting with his business clients. He was one of those born-to-be-an-artist types who could draw perfectly by the age of 5. Now, when he meets clients to explore an architectural project for the first time, he draws simple shapes as they chat in order to explore and bin solutions together. Nothing precious, nothing finished, no time wasted as the company’s meter runs at the planning stage.
This simple question helps when drawing up with research proposals, New Year’s Resolutions and more. It keeps us flexible at the initial stages of a big project and prevents us from going down the rabbit holes of perfect solutions that don’t solve the problem at hand. It helps us remain open to the not-so-obvious solutions that do serve us.
Try it! What is the Why behind your New Year’s Resolutions? Do they fit? It’s not too late to get back to the drawing board. When we find our Why, the doing becomes easier and worth the effort. Our energy will shift into place, purposefully.
Happy 2018! May your Goals support your Purpose.